There are times that you have pain and you cannot manage or lessen it on your own.
This may be because you are a Highly Sensitive Person, an empath, or a discerner – someone with a gift of discernment.
Normally, if you have pain that is physical or emotional, you can manage it or lessen it, at least some. That’s when the emotional or physical pain is yours.
When it’s not yours, you cannot touch it, manage it, or lessen it. You cannot “handle” it on your own.
What do you do that can help? So far I’ve found three things:
- Pray for the person to whom it really belongs. Intercede. Can’t hurt, usually helps. It’s impossible for you to identify with the pain when you are interceding for someone else.
- Sometimes it’s from an unclean spirit – it’s not yours. Resist evil, even as you draw closer to God. (See James 1.) Tell it that it has to leave and stay away; Jesus has given you authority. Don’t be bluffed or tricked into keeping it.
- Worship! Which you can combine, of course, and do with either of the above. When you give praise for what God has done and especially when you worship God for who he is — everything just gets better.
I do not know why I had to be told about this last one, and did not realize it myself. Thank heavens I have good mentors! For more about this, see the post I learned this from, at: https://www.enlivenpublishing.com/blog/2020/06/18/discerners-god-is-healing-your-perspective/